How to Overcome Insecurities With Self-Love

So in this post I am going to confess an insecurity I have. If you prefer to watch my YouTube Video I included it in this post. For those of you who like the written word keep down below…

I have mentioned in many blog posts that my goal is to take daily situations and see the opportunity to practice self love because it is not a one and done event it is an ongoing practice. I am enjoying creating content for different platforms like Instagram and YouTube. Creating that content especially video content opening up a vulnerable spot for me. Seeing myself on camera after I record and start editing I found myself focused on my neck.

I have gained some weight and my neck bulges when I talk and I feel embarrassed when I see it on video. I am sharing this insecurity with you to show you that first, your not alone. Society puts a lot of pressure on the physical and how we “should” look and what is “fat”. So it takes effort to not allow those lies to be our truth. Second, I want you to see that I have not “arrived”, I am not a guru that knows it all. I struggle with the very things I encourage you not to do. I want to make sure that I don’t come across as if I have it all together. What I love about self-compassion is that it does not require that everything be perfect or that I don’t make a mistake or that others need to change. It just asks me to be more loving and kind when I fall. I notice as a recovering perfectionist that even with personal development I can be rigid and feel I have to get it not only right ALL the time but on the first try! Do you ever feel cause you read and educate yourself that then applying what you learn will be easy as 123?

Really?!!

I wish. That in itself is unrealistic. So I am learning that instead of expecting these insecurities to not come up at all. I am learning to use that energy better. Rather than get lost in how could I think like this with what I know? I am learning to transform that energy. I acknowledge yes I got caught up in the superficial and focused on my neck (which most probably were not even  noticing until I nicely brought it up).

Instead of giving more weight to what I have to say. I want to thank those of you who take the time out to comment and let me know how my content affects you. It really serves to remind me that it’s skin deep it’s the impact of what you say and who y ou are that holds more weight. And remembering that my value is not in my neck on the outside it is in the voice box within my neck (see how I did that right there lol) that I am using to share my truth that has value to those who take the time to listen. So I am learning to embrace my insecurities with self compassion. Acknowledge I had a human moment and then refocus on what is important. Acknowledging human moments is HUGE for me.

I usually would deny or shame myself for even feeling insecure. That makes the wound deeper. I am learning to validate a feeling. Every feeling has a purpose even insecurity. I feel it was reminding me what matters and it also helped me to see that I want to take better care of my health.

How do you deal with your insecurities? I hope this helped one person to feel less alone and to have another way to cope when those NORMAL human feelings arise. We do better transforming rather than condemning ourselves to change. 

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Keep growing and transforming Beautiful 🦋